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Welcome to the Pilot's Wife Podcast! This is a show for authentic couples who want to get an even more enriching relationship, and want to be a better spouse, without becoming a doormat! Learn from and with Amy McLaren, marriage educator and wife of jet pilot Joshua McLaren. Both Josh and Amy have been running non-religious pre-marriage education courses for over 10 years, and have had to overcome more than their share of challenges. Inside each episode, Amy shares her biggest "ahas" and proven relationship enrichment tips with complete honesty.
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Thursday Oct 15, 2020
#30 The True Meaning of Marriage (And Why I'm Skulking in a Dark Carpark)
Thursday Oct 15, 2020
Thursday Oct 15, 2020
What does the true meaning of marriage have to do with sitting in a dark carpark at the beach while Josh feeds and bathes the kids and puts them to bed?
Listen to this episode to hear Amy's cheeky explanation of her sneaky solo-outing, and how she uses it to illustrate a core truth about marriage relationships.
Thursday Oct 08, 2020
#29 Free Time Chat Over Chilled Beats
Thursday Oct 08, 2020
Thursday Oct 08, 2020
Things have been hectic in Amy's world, especially with school holidays happening and Josh having completed a week's work in his new Construction Project Manager role. The home responsibilities have ramped up. And there are ongoing sagas with the magazine website not working again and no one being able to fix it so far...
So Amy just wanted to chill for this podcast episode. She cues up some chill beats and just chats about a few things she's been thinking about, relationships-wise. Enjoy this well-appreciated break from her usual break-neck talking speed, and a few laughs too.
Thursday Oct 01, 2020
#28 The Best Thing That Can Happen
Thursday Oct 01, 2020
Thursday Oct 01, 2020
Amy takes a swallow of her own medicine and listens to her own advice in the latest episode of The Pilot's Wife.
She goes deeper into a concept mentioned in the previous episode (#27) about assessing the risk in any given decision to decide whether to take the risk or not. This method is super simple and exceptionally effective for making good decisions you will not regret.
Wednesday Sep 23, 2020
#27 The Percentage Principle
Wednesday Sep 23, 2020
Wednesday Sep 23, 2020
Especially in the current environment, there are many things that seem to be outside of our control to do with challenges, change and routines. What % of each of these things do you see in your lives? Because if we are unhappy with the proportion of certain things in our lives, we get stressed. And that doesn't usually bode well for the people closest to us.
In this episode Amy takes a look at the %'s in her own life, and talks through some examples of ways she is trying to take back some semblance of control in the areas where she isn't happy with the percentages.
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Wednesday Sep 16, 2020
#26 How To Problem Solve Without Losing - Part II
Wednesday Sep 16, 2020
Wednesday Sep 16, 2020
In the final part of a two-part series on Problem Solving, Amy gets into the nitty gritty. This is all about the things to say, how to say them, and what to look for to find the answers you both haven't been able to get so far.
If you want to be a boss when it comes to resolving conflict and solving relationship issues, this episode is a must to listen to!
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Thursday Sep 10, 2020
#25 How to Problem Solve Without Losing - Part 1
Thursday Sep 10, 2020
Thursday Sep 10, 2020
If you've been listening for a while, you would have noticed Amy talks about problem solving in marriage A LOT.
In this episode, the first of a 2-part series, Amy gives you the strategies and tactics for preparing to sit down and solve a problem with your spouse. If you want to have a successful session of problem solving, where the problem actually gets resolved, there is a little bit of prep you need to understand first to get the results you both want.
Get a pen and paper, take notes, and if you do this right, you WILL get a win-win solution in your marriage.
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Thursday Sep 03, 2020
#24 Would Your Family Say Stay Or Go?
Thursday Sep 03, 2020
Thursday Sep 03, 2020
If you were having trouble in your relationship, would your family tell you to work it through with your partner? Chances are in the NZ culture, they would probably tell you something like "you shouldn't have to put up with that!".
There are two problems with this:
1. They are biased
2. They are usually not qualified to advise you on how to resolve your relationship issue
Amy uses a slightly sneaky tactic to illustrate her point, and hopes she won't get into too much trouble with Josh when he finds out!
Thursday Aug 27, 2020
#23 How to Respond to An Angry Spouse And Not Be a Doormat
Thursday Aug 27, 2020
Thursday Aug 27, 2020
When we face great pressures, the most common reaction is to get angry. How are we supposed to deal with anger from the person we love, when anger is such an unloveable thing to have to respond to?
What if it is getting out of hand, and we're getting tired of the anger spewing out too often?
Don't worry! Here are some concrete strategies for responding that Amy and Josh have been practising for the past 4-5 years. They've experienced an ongoing set of stressful situations during and after a problematic house build, with two young children, and have practised these strategies over and over - and they work.
Friday Aug 21, 2020
#22 Are You Like Ships Passing In The Night?
Friday Aug 21, 2020
Friday Aug 21, 2020
In this episode Amy describes detail never before shared about their struggles to have children, and the choice to move ahead with their second-top goal of building a house. After which they finally became pregnant. She tells of problems with their house build, and the crazy times of having no other choice but to live in the house they were building, while it was unfinished (no plumbing) with an unsettled baby, a two year old, and builders with nail guns working around them. Plus, Josh was spending every waking moment he was not away flying planes, helping to complete the build.
Amy and Josh have known acute stresses on their relationship, and here's how they made it through without divorcing.
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Thursday Aug 13, 2020
#21 Do You Need More Money?
Thursday Aug 13, 2020
Thursday Aug 13, 2020
After filming their online course, in this episode Amy goes back to one of the topics covered in the course - money. She adds more detail about the quote from Tim Ferris, author of The 4-Hour Work Week:
"In part, it’s laziness. “If only I had more money” is the easiest way to postpone the intense self-examination and decision- making necessary to create a life of enjoyment – now and not later..."
Amy talks about the resources needed for our hobbies: money, and time, and poses a challenge for working out exactly how much we need to achieve satisfaction in life.